tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5441439346777358800.post1603849495446615913..comments2023-02-09T01:13:17.763-08:00Comments on HERS Forever: Oh, The Pain Of ItSusan's Pethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09910157397713736597noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5441439346777358800.post-63255631817057364752009-06-26T12:17:31.402-07:002009-06-26T12:17:31.402-07:00Hi Susan's Pet:
Like you I don't enjoy st...Hi Susan's Pet:<br /><br />Like you I don't enjoy stubbing my toe or getting a splitting headache. I do enjoy receiving a sound whipping however. What's the difference you ask?<br /><br />IMHO there are quite a few. First I am suffering for the one I adore and that in of itself makes it sexy and desirable. Secondly I have fetishized the act of being whipped and all the scrumpy implements that go along with it; canes, floggers, single tails, straps, paddles, crops etc. Thirdly she often incorporates other fetishes into playtime allowing me to indulge my fetish for worshiping her feet, stockings, high heeled shoes and leather boots. Combining all of these stimuli together into one heady kink cocktail is a powerfully sexual experience for me whereas slamming my thumb in the door is...well...not!<br /><br />Her Majesty does not use corporal punishment to discipline me. That would be a bit like punishing a man with a sweet tooth by feeding him a delicious chocolate truffle. Playtime is playtime. Being whipped is something I strongly need and desire and something she does for me out of the goodness of her heart. What keeps me from misbehaving is my fear of displeasing her. As her sub I want nothing more than to serve her, bring her pleasure, make her happy and see her smile. Seeing her frown or hearing her raise her voice in anger is sufficient punishment for me. Not playing with me or withdrawing her affection would also be a very terrible punishment.<br /><br />Best<br /><br />hmpHer Majesty's Playthinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07185896552621339359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5441439346777358800.post-66366046386107461922009-06-13T19:48:11.124-07:002009-06-13T19:48:11.124-07:00SP,
now we must be wired completely differently. ...SP,<br /><br />now we must be wired completely differently. I do not medicate pain because I believe it is a warning from my body and also because pain killers are so bad for the stomach and liver. But a judiciously applied spanking with it's activation of the bodies own painkilling system is very appealing. I have some seedling nettles growing in my garden and for the first time ever I eyed them for their pain stimulating effect rather than as a food or beverage. They are safe for now as I seem to have hit the virus on its head and am now back to normal health.<br /><br />On the topic of Lady Julia's question I think the need arises because once the effects of pain and the rush of endorphins has been felt it becomes addictive. Someone might correct me but I understand that endorphins are like benzodiazapines which are incredibly addicitive drugs. Being lazy I would much rather have that need met by a spanking than by taking a 20 minute run.dollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06220851788691260620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5441439346777358800.post-76167696196996546422009-06-13T14:24:34.747-07:002009-06-13T14:24:34.747-07:00Dear Lady Julia,
I don't believe that you cou...Dear Lady Julia,<br /><br />I don't believe that you could offend anyone even if trying. You are too kind and cultured for that. I certainly took no offense.<br /><br />I, on the other hand, can offend even without trying. I guess we each have our virtues, and mine is of a dubious value.Susan's Pethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09910157397713736597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5441439346777358800.post-27663403595917108782009-06-13T08:20:42.964-07:002009-06-13T08:20:42.964-07:00Susan's Pet,
Thank you for your response. I ...Susan's Pet,<br /><br />Thank you for your response. I think my confusion with regard to this entire issue is one stemming from semantics more than anything else. <br /><br /><i>What makes the phrase, “need the pain” strange under examination is the unexpectedness.<br /><br />If I had been talking about pleasure, and said, “need the pleasure”, nobody would question it.</i><br /><br />Just to be clear, I was not questioning in a judgmental way. Apologies if my question or remarks were perceived as offensive.Lady Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07732472647830543913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5441439346777358800.post-9511476315132586212009-06-13T04:50:17.731-07:002009-06-13T04:50:17.731-07:00Dear Doll,
If your lover approached you under the...Dear Doll,<br /><br />If your lover approached you under the circumstances with an offer of caning, I would expect you to say the typical, “Not now dear, I have a headache.” You are a kinky lady.<br /><br />What I find funny and appropriate in all this is that I would not consider taking pain medication after a caning, no matter how much it may hurt at the moment. Whereas, If I have a constant headache, Aspirin is the answer.Susan's Pethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09910157397713736597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5441439346777358800.post-42012368900584500722009-06-13T04:41:09.430-07:002009-06-13T04:41:09.430-07:00Dear Lady Julia,
I did not mean “require” when I ...Dear Lady Julia,<br /><br />I did not mean “require” when I said “need”. What makes the phrase, “need the pain” strange under examination is the unexpectedness. <br /><br />If I had been talking about pleasure, and said, “need the pleasure”, nobody would question it. If one is not wired that way, he or she does not need the pain. Yet most of need the pleasure, and know how it feels.<br /><br />As I pointed out, I am not really into pain, especially as a primary feeling, as opposed to pleasure. But a little of it goes a long way to enhance my pleasure. Pain and pleasure are intertwined when in the proper context.<br /><br />As for the feeling being “required”, well, it depends on the circumstances. If I were paying a professional for the pain or pleasure, then yes, it would be required. On the other hand, when relating to a respected partner, whether in D/S or just vanilla, “need” is the appropriate expression of feeling. The difference is that in the first case it is expected, in the latter it is welcomed if it happens.Susan's Pethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09910157397713736597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5441439346777358800.post-11419870103898596752009-06-13T04:02:36.349-07:002009-06-13T04:02:36.349-07:00As I am suffering visceral pain at the moment it i...As I am suffering visceral pain at the moment it is very clear to me that there is a substantive difference. For starters it is constant, then there is the fact that there is no way short of taking painkillers that I can diminish it..I can't ask it to stop. For some reason that I don't understand it doesn't activate endorphins perhaps because it isn't forceful enough. It might also be that when we are feeling pain due to illness is is part of a systemic problem whilst pain due to a dominants lust remains superficial in terms of the body. I must say that I would appreciate a good caning at the moment, it might rouse me out of my misery.dollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06220851788691260620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5441439346777358800.post-20851350414767019932009-06-13T01:00:38.194-07:002009-06-13T01:00:38.194-07:00Thank you for a very interesting post :)
If I may...Thank you for a very interesting post :)<br /><br />If I may, I wanted to ask a question about something you said.<br /><br /><i>Some of us want to be punished, want to be hurt, need the pain,</i><br /><br />I understand the enjoyment and wanting of punishment and pain, but I have always had difficulty in understanding when someone says they "need the pain" in the context of punishment/discipline. When you say "need", I tend to think of that meaning "require". Will nothing else work as punishment/discipline or is it actually <i>one</i> of the things that work? <br /><br />I seldom ask anyone about this because I'm afraid people will think I'm being judgmental. I'm hoping we've read each other's writing long enough now that you will know I'm not. I'd truly like to understand.Lady Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07732472647830543913noreply@blogger.com